People do business with people they know, like and trust. However, remember that before they give you that chance to know, like or trust you, they will judge you—you get only one chance to make a first impression. This post is about how to become more attractive, how to make a killer impression in 7 steps.
We just said that you get only one chance to make a killer impression but keep in mind that people will judge you and in just 7 seconds make a decision if they like you.
How you make the other person feel during the course of your conversation is also important during those first few seconds. Put into action these seven steps to make a great first impression—to gain respect—to make that divine connection.
Step #1: Become More Attractive but be You
It goes beyond how you are dressed—your ornamentation (clothes, make-up, jewelry, perfume) or even what you say. People are first attracted to you not just because of how you look on the outside but who you are on the inside—it comes down to how you make them feel.
Aim to become a more attractive person, care for people become a servant leader. People can tell if you are for real. Learn to love people it’s the first part of making a killer first impression.
Make a list of the six qualities of who you want to attract and then become those attitudes, attributes, characters, the mindsets and philosophy that you want to attract—then mirror those behaviors. We attract who we are, not who we want Jim Rohn says it best,
“To attract attractive people, you must be attractive. To attract powerful people, you must be powerful. To attract committed people, you must be committed. Instead of going to work on them, you go to work on yourself. I f you become, you can attract.”
Step #2: Be for Real
Don’t be someone you are not just for the sake of impressing people. People can tell when you are not genuine. Be willing to be vulnerable, so your true self, people want the real you, become more transparent, don’t try to come off like you are all perfect especially if you don’t have the first clue.
Step #3: Treat People Like People
Don’t treat people like you want to be treated, instead look out for their needs, address their concerns, treat each person like how they want to be treated. Remember that we all have expectations.
Show people, genuine love, people want to know that you care, they don’t just want to be a customer, client, or prospect, we all want to be loved, we all want human connection and affection.
Give the people you. Most of us are starving for love and affection, not just things. That is the one thing that I kept telling my most previous husband was,
“It’s not you paying the bills, that I care about. Just show me some love.”
Step #4: Be Genuinely Interested in People
A way of showing that you care is to be more attentive. Make fewer statements—ask more questions. Better yet ask, ask the right questions, ones that will allow people to open up and share their values, interests, hopes, and desires, with you. Become a person of interest.
Step #5: Appreciate Others
On the way up the ladder we sometimes get caught up in ourselves but we must remember every single day to:
- Appreciate – see people doing things right and remember to congratulate them
- Congratulate and Celebrate other people’s success
- Compliment people for their contribution or a job well done
Step #6: Always Be Positive
Maintain a positive mental attitude. Always aim to see the good in any situation, abstain from gossip, smile more, be grateful, no matter what is happening to you it could be worse. Be the change that you want to see in the world.
Avoid bad days, if you are having a horrible day stay home. Be memorable, leave people wanting more of you—always leave a little sparkle where ever you go.
Step #7: Give
Look for ways to assist, to give. Seek to help—give willingly, give first. Sow the seed, be on the positive side, make deposits as often as you can.
As the Biblical Law of Sowing and Reaping says, give in all that you do and one day it will come back to you in excess—you’ll reap bountifully.
Once again people will make a decision during the first few seconds of meeting you and it is quite likely that their impression will never change so now I’m sure that you can see why it is so important to put your best foot forward.
You are making a brand impression with every contact you make, in 7 seconds some just made a decision about you, whether you like it or not, whether it was intentional or not.
My question for you is: What step are you already a Pro at? Leave a comment in the section below.
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